Insecure Attachment at Work: How Trauma Disguises Itself as Ambition
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Are you actually "ambitious", or are you anxiously attached to your career? In this raw and honest episode, I share a peek behind the scenes of my business, my recent hiatus, and the quiet ways over-functioning and performance have sneaked into my work.
If you’ve ever treated your metrics, business, or career like an unpredictable partner you constantly have to soothe and perform for to feel safe, you are not alone. Together, we unpack how complex trauma and societal conditioning fuse together to trick us into using work as our primary source of validation - and why true rest can feel so terrifying to a braced nervous system.
In this episode, we explore:
- How romantic anxious attachment and career anxious attachment are virtually identical.
- The trauma multiplier: Why conditional love or emotional neglect makes us lean on performance culture to feel safe.
- Why "doing nothing" feels like physical danger to a hyper-vigilant nervous system.
- Behind the scenes of my business break: Letting go of desperation, overfunctioning, and forcing hard-to-maintain spaces (like IG) to align with true ease (like this podcast).
- How to gently approach your trauma so your body can learn it is safe to rest.
- Moving from treating rest as a reward for burnout to practicing it as an everyday somatic skill.
A note on where I am right now: I’m currently on a soft break from active live calls and daily social media to practice the very rest and integration we talk about in this episode! You can still access our full library of past practices and classes at the links below.
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